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воскресенье, 4 декабря 2011 г.

dmitrik to the best future

So it is clear that family relationships need more attention than we usually give to them. For most of us it is a given that the family is there. We may say “If I need them I can call upon them and they are there for me.” But is this enough? How about your family relationships? Is it time you sat down with the family members and discussed how you each see your place in the family structure – grandfather, grandmother, sons and daughters, their spouses and children. And in today’s world there are often even more levels of this relationship. If one or other party has been divorced, or a spouse or partner has died and a new person has been introduced into the family, the structure will change. What of his or her values, rules and own family as you try to integrate them into your family? Is it time to have conversations with individual members of the family? Perhaps there is a sibling or son or daughter with whom your relationship is not as it should be. How can you change this? Often just taking time to sit down together undisturbed, talking about your feelings can bring out the desired a change in the relationship. Be open and honest with each other but not judgmental. It is often very difficult to leave out the judgment critic. Remember you each have equal rights to voice your thoughts and feelings. Listen to the other person; it’s very likely you will learn something. You will have to set some rules for this engagement. Maybe it needs to be in an independent space, neither person’s home or office. A coffee shop during a quiet period would be ideal. Just as long as you are both comfortable with the location. Then set the rules and boundaries. This should not be the opportunity for a slanging match or verbal abuse. It is not meant to become a battle field. Before the meeting think “calmness, balance, poise, good temper etc”. So it’s worth a try. You have nothing to lose and much to gain. Then when you see it work with one person try it on any other family with whom you think you have a problem. Perhaps you can begin an ever increasing circle of peace and harmony.
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